What Happens After the Benediction?

shutterstock_94941961_2So much of what we at Key Ministry, along with other special needs ministry leaders focus on is creating welcoming and inclusive environments to help families be able to attend church. But how do we come beside families of kids with disabilities and “do life” with them after the connection has been made and the families we serve are now part of our church?

I was discussing with Mike Woods the possibility of developing a training video based upon the title of this blog post. I had sent him a link to this article from the front page of the Cleveland paper with the question of what a church could do to help a family in the predicament of the parents described in the story. Mike’s response got me thinking about what churches do well after families of kids with disabilities have made the initial connection and are regularly attending church.

I had an opportunity yesterday to speak with the mother of a boy with autism from a family that has been attending a new church for the last few months. Their family has had a great experience at their new church with the children’s pastor and volunteers going above and beyond despite the absence of any recognized special needs ministry. Both parents are potentially very high capacity volunteers with extensive leadership experience in multiple churches.

The mother told me about a conversation she very much appreciated with a leader in the church this past Sunday. She shared that the leadership of the church was very excited about having two people with the experience that she and her husband bring with them and the church is very excited about having a conversation with them about how they might want to use their gifts and talents at the church. The church leader also shared that they were sensitive to the demands that having a son with autism places on the family and that they would essentially wait for a signal from the couple before initiating such a conversation.

Several lessons I took from the way in which this church responded to this new family…

1. They were proactive in doing everything they could to help the parents and all of their children feel comfortable and welcome from before the time of their first visit to the church.

2. They recognized the potential gifts and talents that the family could contribute to the ministry of the church.

3. They’re relying upon the parents to discern when the timing is right for them to become more active in exercising their gifts and talents through the church, as opposed to expecting the family to conform to their agenda.

4. They continue to communicate a sense that each member of the family is valued and wanted at the church.

Over the next few weeks, I’m planning to share some more success stories of how churches we know have found tangible ways to minister to families “after the benediction.”

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About Dr. G

Dr. Stephen Grcevich serves as President and Founder of Key Ministry, a non-profit organization providing free training, consultation, resources and support to help churches serve families of children with disabilities. Dr. Grcevich is a graduate of Northeastern Ohio Medical University (NEOMED), trained in General Psychiatry at the Cleveland Clinic Foundation and in Child and Adolescent Psychiatry at University Hospitals of Cleveland/Case Western Reserve University. He is a faculty member in Child and Adolescent Psychiatry at two medical schools, leads a group practice in suburban Cleveland (Family Center by the Falls), and continues to be involved in research evaluating the safety and effectiveness of medications prescribed to children for ADHD, anxiety and depression. He is a past recipient of the Exemplary Psychiatrist Award from the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). Dr. Grcevich was recently recognized by Sharecare as one of the top ten online influencers in children’s mental health. His blog for Key Ministry, www.church4everychild.org was ranked fourth among the top 100 children's ministry blogs in 2015 by Ministry to Children.
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2 Responses to What Happens After the Benediction?

  1. Mike Woods says:

    Awesome post Dr. Steve! Thanks for all that you and all the wonderful staff at Key Ministry do on a regular basis to support churches in becoming places of welcome and inclusion for all…

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  2. Awesome. If only every church could have such wisdom. Thanks for passing it on to us.

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